Expert: Paul Walker - 9/19/2008

Question
I would like to know how I can minister to and help a girlfriend who is a worship leader but is also striving to make it BIG in the secular music industry. She is a very pretty girl with a great body. I am mentioning this because this is the cause of the problem. She ALWAYS wears tight, sexy clothes and draws a lot of attention to her body. I believe that God had made us as women beautiful and we need to cherish that and be thankful for that. But I see a big problem with it if women abuse this, show it off and draws attention to their bodies and themselves in a sexual way. Then they are allowing the devil to use them and make men fall and lust after sin. How do I tell her and guide her to change and become the women God made her and not the women the devil wants her to be, and how do we as a worship team allow someone who is in the "worldy music scene" to also be in the church worship band. She does love Jesus and knows the Bible. I also forgot to mention that her father is the Snr Pastor and their family is VERY sensitive to be spoken to about anything!

Answer
James 4:4  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? WHOSOEVER THEREFORE WILL BE A FRIEND OF THE WORLD IS THE ENEMY OF GOD. KJV
From your description, I would find it hard to believe the lady in question "loves Jesus" and knowing what the Bible says and believing it to be God's infallible word is two different things. I cannot counsel you on how to deal with this except to say that most likely you would be accused of being a trouble maker and could very well, with my blessing, get the Church boot. Personally, I would be looking for a different Church to attend.
I am sorry I cannot offer you more, from your description she violates every command and concept of godly womanhood. That is not someone who "loves Jesus." All you can do is live a godly righteous life and speak the truth as to why you do so.
Your Servant In Christ Jesus,
Paul Walker