Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Mrs. Priscilla Lyons

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Rozz wrote at 2009-08-22 13:56:05
Hello Priscilla,

I am not sure if you are a pastor, theologian or what, but your response to this lady was not fair.  You are asking her to ignore a key part of any marriage relationship - intimacy.  I have met so many Christian couples who are co-existing that I am disgusted.  It is hypocrisy to go to church and "pretend all is right" when this lady is hurting.  You have asked her to focus on the provision and not the relationship. Thus placing no accountability on her spouse.  He should want to please her, it is natural!!

I Corinthian 7:3-6 states:

The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.  So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.



Is this grounds for divorce, not sure, but they should seek counseling and if he refuses that is a matter between her and God.  She should seek guidance from her pastor.



This is serious, and to place the focus on her and making her think she is ungrateful without at least giving her the word on this is irresponsible at best.   He has promised life, and life abundantly, not a shell or a sham that only focuses on material

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