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If a husband has been told someting in confidence by another person and asked to keep this in confidence ,where in the bible would it be alright to do so?  Should this be done as requested?

Greetings Rowena,

If an individual has promised to keep something private then the individual should do so unless doing so would endanger lives or could harm others.  No one should do anything that they feel is not done in good conscience or is against God's Word, but in most cases (aside from danger or harm) a confidence related to another with the request to keep what was related private does not go against what is written in the Bible.  In fact we are instructed to have a good conscience and live honorably.  We are also told to talk to God in private as well.  What we relate to our Father in confidence we would not want Him to go and tell to others.  We can speak openly to Him with the understanding that what we say will be kept in confidence.

"Pray for us; for we are confident that we have a good conscience, in all things desiring to live honorably."  Hebrews 13:18

“But you, when you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly."  Matthew 6:6

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