Expert: Joanne Chang - 4/25/2008

Question

Good day,
How do you say to some one in the workplace or a stranger that you experience up and downs in moods in a nice way without them thinking you are crazy and without them having think that when you are down something is wrong or wrong with them.
What is a nice way of telling a coworker, friend etc. this so that they understand and dont think that when you are down something is wrong between you and them.

Answer
Good day to you too,

Sorry about the delay in getting back to you but this weekend has been really hectic for me.

It's totally usual for everyone to have ups and downs in mood.
What may be deemed unusual is how we behave during those ups and downs.
So, the answer to your question depends on what you do when up and when down.

However, in general, you could be honest with your feelings and say something along the lines of "I hope you don't take my reaction personally.  I'm just having a really bad day and need some time to sort out my feelings."

Usually, when upset, I would recommend that you keep things brief, and when you are less upset, if you feel comfortable, you might want to talk things out at greater length.

Everyone has bad days once in a while, so your co-worker or friend should understand.  However, if you seem to be having more bad days than good days, you might want to reconsider whether your mood management techniques are helping you sufficiently.

Best wishes,
Joanne :-)