AboutJennifer Expertise I can answer general questions related to type I, II, S.A.D., questions from individuals diagnosed bipolar or feel that they may be bipolar, questions from family & friends about bipolar disorder, and questions about social issues relating to bipolar disorder.
Experience I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder type II in 2000; \as a SSI beneficiary, have experience and knowledge of the limitations and processes involved with the program; I understand the moods, the feelings, the worries, the doubts, and a lot more that there's not enough room to express - from the personal experiences of being bipolar. I have first-hand experience with the challenges of returning to college following hospitalizations and various combinations of medications that were tried before my doctor and I finally arrived at the most effective medication program for my treatment. My family and I have learned so much about each other in the process of dealing with the highs and lows that followed my diagnosis. I've had relationships with someone who also is bipolar and someone that is not - romantic relationships are no easier on either side! I feel that many of the ideas and beliefs that people have regarding bipolar disorder and those who have the condition promote the continuation of social stigmas associated with mental illness in general, and after learning from others with bipolar disorder in addition to my personal experiences, hope to guide others who may be trying to navigate the government health care system (I am most familiar with Medi-Cal, as a California resident), what to expect during the process when applying for SSI and options that can be pursued if the SSA has denied an application &
other possible means of obtaining assistance with the cost of medications and/or mental health services and limited financial assistance programs for meeting basic living expenses for qualified individuals, dealing with problems from or with family & loved ones, co-occurring substance abuse problems, medications and side-effects (and when it feels like nothing will work, or why it's not helping the situation to ask whether or not a patient has taken their 'meds' when they seem hostile or moody to those around them) - In summary - bipolar disorder isn't easy for the patient or the people in their lives; both sides can benefit from considering each others' perspective.
Education/Credentials I have a B.A. in Liberal Arts and currently am a 2nd year law student. I am involved in the arbitrator/mediator program at my law school campus, and currently have focused on medical/healthcare systems (both public and private) in the legal environment for my 2nd year studies.
Question Why would someone with Bipolar be promiscuous but always come back to one person? (he is dating one girl but still doesnt want to let me go) Why?
Answer By promiscuous, do you mean that he is sleeping with several different women, dating other women whom he hasn't reached the stage where sex becomes involved, or is he involved with someone that began relatively recently and continuing to return to be with you in one sense or another?
It is fairly common for someone who is bipolar to struggle with situations that cause changes in their life. All the unpredictability that comes with the condition is something that, even with medications, is out of our hands to control; thus, anything that is stable to some extent, is what we hold onto as tightly as we can. He undoubtedly sees what he has with you as something safe, familiar, consistent, and where he has been loved by someone (you). I cannot say whether or not he will eventually have what he needs & is getting from you right now, with the new woman. I couldn't even say that his behavior indicates that at some later point in time, you guys will get back together & spend the rest of your lives with each other only.
At the end of the day, you need to do what is going to make you happy. If you want to be with this guy still, and don't want to share him, you need to tell him how you feel (however he responds to being told, you should be prepared to hear a positive response and also a negative one; at least you'll know where he stands). If you feel like you are ready and needing to move on, you can't continue to allow him to have a relationship at his convenience with you. Knowing that there is another woman out there who is under the assumption that she is in a relationship with a guy where she's the only one. Because I believe in karma, I try not to do something that I wouldn't want to come back to me 3 times over. A couple of relationships back, I got involved with someone before I broke up with the guy I had been dating at the time. I shouldn't have been surprised when I found out the week before our year anniversary that he'd cheated on me 10 months earlier but had to confess before we got to the year point. I'd been asking him over and over during the 4-5 months before he confessed what the deal with him and this girl was; when some chick runs up and hugs your man with her legs around his waist plus she's wearing a skirt, but he went on denying it despite everything. I chalk it all up to the way that I started into the relationship, and ever since that experience, I've tried to be conscientious of the potential effects that my actions may cause myself and others. I hope that you will make the best decision for you, & good luck
