Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 5/2/2011

Question
Dear Mr Plesman

I contacted you back on 5 Feb about my daughter who is bipolar.   We have tried to give her the vitamins, but she will not take them, and she will not go to the nutritional doctor.  She is dependent on her antidepressants.  I have read how SSRIs change brain chemistry.  We have noticed how she has difficulty making right decisions in relation to the children's [2] safety.

She seems to be on a spiral out of control, running up expensive phone bills she cannot pay.  The last time she did this we had to bail her out.  

She is not allowed to take the children to see their father, as the court has granted him only supervised accessed.  

His father kicked him out, then he got drunk and punched his boss, who then sacked him, and told him to get help for his drinking problem, and go to AA.  He had no where to go, so he rang my daughter and coerced her and has come to live near them.  He said he did not like AA, and told her he has not had a drink.  They spent Easter together.  She did not tell us where she was, so we rang the police.  This is a guy who provoked her then when she hit him, he charged her with assault, and has phyically and verbally abused her and threatened to kill her.  Last November he forced his way into her flat and trashed the place.  There is a DVO against him, and she is supposed to breach him if he breaks it, but she never does.  She doesn't have any friends and its like he is her only link.

Before Easter she was afraid of him that he might harm her.  Now she is spending time on the phone talking to him every day.  We are very worried for the children.  It is impossible to reason with her.  They only have to spend say 2 days together and they start verbally abusing each other.

She has two big brothers, whom I have thought of getting them involved, as she is not listening to me.  The solicitors do not know he has breached the DVO yet.  They do not go back to court for another 5 months.

We are so worried, if the children are taken from them, we will be left to pick up the pieces of the mess she has made herself.  If she goes back to him, I think I will disown her.  But I know its probably the drugs she is on that is making things worse, among other things.  I have read that the highs bipolars experience are sometimes reasons why they do not take medication, because they like the highs.

Thank you
Frances

Answer
Hi Frances,

There comes a time to get government agencies involved when people do not want to accept treatment or advice. This is beyond you. It seems to more you want to help, the more you become the victim of their disease. There is help, but if people do not want to take advice or treatment, you have to let nature take over the case.
Please contact Social Services Department.
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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist.
Hon. Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
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