Bipolar Disorder/Bi-polar boyfriend

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Hello! As the title suggests, I think I'm dating someone with bi-polar issues. We've been together for 3 years and I do love him, but it's getting the point where I'm going to break it off because it's so unhealthy. I was talking to one of my close friends the other day and she was saying how the things he does relates to her sister, who is diagnosed with bi-polar. That includes:

- Constant lying, with just about anything! No matter big or small
- Stealing, especially money.. and when caught, turns the story around and NEVER admits. Instead, acts like the victim
- Gets overly angry, even with the smallest issues. As a couple, he always avoided those "talks" and gets really angry even when I'm not even trying to argue
- Once he is angry, he can completely isolate himself and not return any calls no matter the situation or even see me for that matter.

With these symptoms, are any of you familiar with it being related to bi-polar disorder? Or is he just crazy? I'm not even going to bring it up to him because I don't want to deal with what his reaction might be. I'm sick of it. But at the same time if he does have the disorder, I can't help but to feel bad for him and wish he would go get help.

Your feedback would be really appreciated!

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Hello Kay,

Of course I don't know whether your boyfriend is bipolar, which is usually marked by extreme mood swings. If he is aware that is behaviour is upsetting you and he is willing to do something about it he could be helped overcome his mood disorders. If not, it is best to leave him, because after all, he need to be motivated and  you have to look after your own mental health.

I suggest if he is interested in helping himself he joins the Facebook page : Mental Illness and Nutritional Treatment  

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Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist

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Have worked as a psychotherapist for overv twenty years, dealing with many personality disorders

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I have a degree in Psychology from the Sydney University and a Postgraduate Diploma in Clinical Nutrition. I am also the author of “GETTING OFF THE HOOK” which deals with the nutritional and psychological treatment of personality disorders. It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search. I am interested in the relationship between nutrition and behaviour, and as a Probation ans Parole Officer facilitated groups for offenders, many of whom were alcoholics and drug addicts, sex offenders or compulsive gamblers, as well as the whole gamut of “personality disorders”. I am also the ex-editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia Newsletter, a quarterly publication dealing with hypoglycemia and related health problems. Its web site, together with a shortened course of PSYCHOTHERAPY can be visited at: http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au

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Editor of the Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia. Its web site is at:

http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au

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Author of the book "Getting off the Hook", It is freely available on the internet at Google Book Search. My articles can be found at: https://docs.google.com/document/pub?id=1M3x0ciu21Q8-KJO3tcIuxE-Mn97OIxCKzuhHDY8umrU#id.m9k24s-yjf9sc

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BA (Psych) (University of Sydney), Post Gad Dip Clin Nutr (International Academy of Nutrition)

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