Expert: Ivan Goldberg, M.D. - 7/21/2004

Question
hi i have bipolar disorder and i want to know why it is that all my anger is towards my husband not my kids or anyone else . sometimes my mother but not nearly as bad. it is causeing a lote of problems with my marriage and i dont know what to do. i feel like im in a zome that i have no control over

Answer
Hi, Crissy . . .


I'm not sure why you are venting your anger toward your husband more thant towards other people.

It may have to do with one of the following reasons:

He annoys you by his attitude toward you and/or your Bipolar Disorder.

For some reason he is a "safe" target.

Her is more available than other possible targets for your anger.

He reminds you or someone from your past at whom you were very angry.

There are probably a million other possible reasons.
If your anger in putting a strain on the marriage, it would be a good idea for you to work on this problem with a psychotherapist's.