Expert: Ivan Goldberg, M.D. - 1/8/2005

Question
DR Thank you for your dedication.
I have been seeing a woman for 3 + years now, she is very pretty but is increasingly more and more emotionally needy and very suspicious and critical of everyone. About every three months or so she will find something to fixate on until it becomes disastrous, for example I fell asleep watching a movie, she soon becomes out of control and orally attacking / vicious to the point we separate. A few weeks will go by and she is crying to see me again but says she doesn't remember saying such horrible things or being angry. I / we are practicing Christians but she avoids counseling with pastors and only talks with very surface friends who don't know the details, is this avoidance?  If this truly is a sickness then I am willing to stand by her if she seeks help or does it sound more like she is just that insecure / selfish i.e.. a brat.
Thanks again.
David

Answer
Hi . . .

it is impossible for me to accurately make to make and unethical for me to even try to make a diagnosis on the basis if information from an email.  

You might want to go to Goggle and do a couple of searches: "soft bipolar" and "borderline personality disorder" They are among a dozen or so possibilities.

Best regards . . .

Ivan
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