Expert: Guy Curious - 10/6/2010

Question
My fiancee recently admitted that he has had sex with a man. He said it was only once but that he did enjoy it. I found a dildo that he was hiding he later admitted it was for his own use. One of his porn choices is she male porn. It was very hard for him to admit to me that he had done anything with a man. And I was open to it, and told him he could always be open and honest with me. We have a great relationship and I would never worry about him cheating. I just need to know if I will ever be able to truely satify all of his needs knowing that he has this tendancy. I have offered to experiment with toys etc, but he hasnt brought it up anymore. I love him and will do whatever it takes I just need to know if he will be truely happy with just me? Or will he always have that desire that I cant fulfill? Thanks for any advice you can offer. :)

Answer
Speaking from experience it's very hard to admit for some guys to admit they are bi.  Male biseuxality is still frowned up in many circles but it is gaining more acceptance each day.

Give him some time to work thru his feelings and maybe he'll open up but don't push the topic as it may cause him to lock down emotionally.  

As for whether he can be truely happy with just you I can't say.  

You could try this albeit a bit radical.  Go rent some adult films that you think he would enjoy and pop it into the dvd player when the two of you are relaxing on the couch.  Some guys like when the girl takes the initiative.  See what his response is.  This could demonstrate to him your acceptance of who he is.

Good luck and write back to let me know how it's progressing.