Expert: Mrs. Discreet - 8/13/2010

Question
Hi, I'm 20 years old and for the past few years I've caught myself checking out girls but I love men and everything about them. I've always been a bit of a tomboy and have always been able to relate to men better than women and even experienced quite a bit of penis envy. When I was a kid I thought that I was born the wrong gender but when I grew up and became more comfortable with my body (I developed early) and with the opposite sex, I started to explore my sexuality more. In these past few years I've found myself imagining being with a girl (femmes not studs), mostly touching and kissing but I've never had the desire for sex with a girl because I just really love sex with a man but I do think about threesomes from time to time(2 girls, 1 guy). Sometimes I can't help but stare when they're ridiculously beautiful or if they have nice assets. I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, I've just been really confused about the extent of it. Am I bisexual?

Answer
Becca,

It's great that you have undergone such self discovery and that is really the key to knowing who you truly are.
In my opinion, if you are sexually attracted to both sexes then you are bisexual. It really has little to do with if you've ever acted upon it. If the desire is there, then in the least.. you are bi-curious.
Since this is something that you have thought about on your own, and have not been persuaded by a man to feel, then I believe the feelings are more true.
If and/or when you do become physically intimate with a woman, then you will know forsure whether it is true or something that is just nice for your imagination to think about and ponder.

I hope I have been able to help, and I wish you the best of luck!! Enjoy your exploration!!