Expert: Guy Curious - 8/29/2010

Question
Here's my situation. I've been hooking up with this guys I met almost 8 months. I like him very much and it developed into more like love. During those periods I've hooked up with other guys but when I fell in love to him I stopped. Lately I found out that he's hooking up with another guy coz I saw their text messages. I always meet him twice a week and I sleep over but it seems that his sexual interest with me is declining because of the other guy and I'm not sure where I stand or whether he still likes me. He doesn't seem to mind me staying over or hanging out but it would make me feel so awkward being there and knowing his thinking about the other guy. I wanted to talk to him but he doesn't not like those conversation (he's very much like a straight guy in terms of thinking. does not want emotional talks). What should I do?

Answer
For you own sanity you need to sit him down and ask some hard questions about your relationship.  If he is unwilling to talk then you need to make a decision as to whether you stay in this one sided relationship or move on.  

Relationships need open communication to survive.  Also, his being with other guys could expose you to STD's.