Expert: Guy Curious - 2/9/2011

Question
Hi, sorry this is going to be lengthy but I have to explain to get a good answer. ok so my boyfriend and I have decided we want to have a threesome with another girl. I've never been with a woman but I can say honestly that the idea excites me. I told him the only way I'd do it was with him (at least there) and he said that whatever I wanted would be fine. He can watch or he can join. Now after we both know we want to do it comes the hard part, finding the girl. I've read a lot of other peoples stories and see that we have three options; random stranger (going to a bar or something and taking someone home), friend that's down for it, or internet search.
I'm a little worried about the random stranger option because of possible disease, plus the bar scene isn't really for us.
I think that the best option is the friend... Mostly because I had the perfect person for that scenario. But when that time came and it was go time she backed out. And I'm talking about after I'd let down my walls and got over my fears (and had a couple drinks).  I felt rejected and embarrassed. plus our friendship got a little awkward. So the friend thing is out.
We agreed that looking online would be ok but I have no idea where to start with that?
So here it is... If you were me what would you do? do you have any suggestions for the online lookup? Like where? Or if you know another way to approach our trio please let me know. Thanks

Answer
I will suggest a lifestyle oriented website such as swinglifestyle.com or adultfriendfinder.com.  Create a profile and be honest about what/who you're looking for.  

Now, you may be bombarded with requests from single guys posing as girls, guys who want to bring their wife/girlfriend, etc.  Be thorough in the screening process.

Now the health part.  Finding a stranger for a sexual rendezvous can be risky so I would suggest having any potential partners screened for STD's, HIV, HPV, etc.  You can't be too careful.  Remember, some STD's stay with you forever, kinda' like luggage.

You and your boyfriend should discuss the ground rules and stick to them.  Keep the lines of communication open and if either becomes uncomfortable then stop.  

I hope this helps and please write back and let me know how you're doing.