Expert: Guy Curious - 3/22/2011

Question
Hello !  Perhaps you could kindly shed some light on this matter.  I am a heavily closeted bisexual male who is not at all into sex....frankly I do get these crushes on these younger dudes who happen to be extremely handsome and I do fantasize about them........frankly about light affection such as hand holding, embracing, and rubbing their barefeet !  For me that's as far as it goes.......most importantly I wish to build a fraternal/brotherly friendship with that type of high quality educated and professional type of guy who doesn't drink heavily, smoke,  nor does drugs.  Unfortunately, these discreet attempts have gotten me nowhere...I have tried to place ads on Craig's List and the only responses are guys sending pics of their 'cocks'-----no body seems to get it !!!!   What is the problem here ?
Also, I do have this problem with peers - especially males.  I come across as a totally nice, outgoing, and social type of guy...helpful,courteous, trustworthy, et al.  I do not declare myself as to my lifestyle but apparently I am viewed with great suspicion with practically all males under a certain age.  When I say a mere HELLO to them - they immediately get on the offensive and have it in their minds that I am trying to 'hit on them' and these are not my motives at all !  Is it because these guys are 'protesting way too much' ?!  I hasten to add that I myself and am handsome and classy kind of guy...well-educated and well-spoken.  Why are these guys so fearful of me ?!  In the future when I saw just a HELLO to a guy - do I have to tell them -- 'no worries - I am not about to hit on you' ?!  
Bottom line I would like to know a top-of-the-line handsome guy for a fraternal friendship---though not against secretive and light affection.....but I am not hitting on each and every dude to whom I saw HELLO !
Thanks !

Answer
Unfortunately there are a LOT of bi guys out there who are only interested in sex.  Trying to find someone you can build a relationship with is going to be hard.  What about setting up a profile on different dating sites ?  Explain what you're looking for and hopefully there is another guy out there looking for the same.  In my experience, Craigslist is a hookup site, strictly sexual interaction.  

What about gay bars ?  You might be able to meet someone there.  Do some research and find a club in a higher end neighborhood.  That might increase your chances of finding another educated, refined male.  

Good luck !