Expert: Guy Curious - 3/25/2011

Question
Hello !
I am a heavily closeted bi-sexual male who is basically a very nice and attractive guy --- well-educated, traveled, and with a wide variety of hobbies and interests.  I am also loyal, dependable, and a fun person to be with.
I have always gone out of my way to keep my sexual thoughts entirely to myself.
Unfortunately, I have been unable to establish any sort of a good friendship with any male---because they are automatically suspicious and might be harboring thoughts that I perhaps might be 'hitting on them' though I hasten to add I give no indication of doing so----I would never be that stupid-----all I say is a HELLO and I'm usually met with stone silence and a glower.  What's the problem here ?  Why this fear of me from these dudes ?  Is it as case where Shakespeare wrote that they 'might be protesting too much' ?!  Deep down are they repressing their feelings ?!  Do they perhaps really want me to 'hit on them' ?!
Then a few of my male platonic friendships have been sunk by their parents.....we're talking now about dudes past the age of 18.......these parents have looked at me and through me with great suspicion............do I constantly have to explain my motives to these people ?!   I have no intention of broadcasting my closet bisexuality to the entire world because it is none of their bloody business as far as they're concerned........I do not have interest in taking these dudes to bed !
What's the deal here ?!   I think with your background you would be in a far better position to answer this question than others.
Thanks !

Answer
Male bisexuality is not widely accepted in society at this time.  Hopefully someday it will be as commonplace as female biseuxality is.

Society itself is generally suspicious of people as a whole.  We generally err on the side of caution just to be safe.  When someone approaches in an overly friendly aura it sets off an alarm in most people's head.  Once again, just to err on the side of caution.

Maybe you're coming on too strong and that is making people suspicious ?  I'm not sure what other insight I can offer.