Expert: Guy Curious - 2/4/2012

Question
Hi expert. I'm Peter. Recently I recalled about an encounter in my past which have been causing me a lot of stress and problems toward my life. When i was a kid, i used to watch porn and this causes me to have all kinds of fantasy in my mind. I don't know why i'm fascinated by blow job and penis. Due to my curiosity, i asked my brother to let me to blow job him. And so i did blow job him. My brother he blow job me too. This thing happened pretty much when i was a kid. I don't know what i was doing and out of curiosity i just did it. Nowadays out of a sudden i recalled this bad incident and it disturb me in my life. I don't know what to do now. I can't feel my girlfriend even though we are kissing because i feel shameful for what i've done in the past. Should i tell this encounter to my girlfriend? i scared that it will change the way she thinks about me. What should i do? Or should i just forget about this thing because at that moment i was young, naive and curios? How am i supposed to let it go and have my happy, loving lifestyle again? Can you give me advice please in how to forgive myself about this incident? How to let it go and love my girlfriend whole heartedly and let it go? How to not feel shameful and learn from my mistake? Do I counted as not a virgin anymore because my younger brother blowed me? Help me please, I really need you help. Thank you!

Answer
I would chalk it up to youthful curiosity (which is normal) and just let it go.  Granted, sexual exploration at that age typically does not occur with a family member but the past is the past and there is nothing you can do to change it so just let it go and move on with your life.  Dwelling on this will not change what has happened, it will only cause you more pain and confusion.

Be happy and live for today.