Expert: ***ERICA*** - 1/8/2008

Question
This guy had been trying for almost a year to get my attention.i wasnt interested,or attracted to him.over time i got to know him and that changed.so i gave him a chance since he seemed to like me so much.He was always trying so hard to please me and i didnt want to hurt him.well over the next couple months i got more and more comfortable with him being around and was really starting to like him.then all the sudden he just cut me off.He gave no reason.He just walked away and hasnt looked back.  Im confused.im hurt by this.why did he try so hard, what was the point if he didnt even want me.i didnt do anything wrong for him to be like that.It just doesnt seem right.What do you think happened here?hes not a mean person if he were i wouldnt have liked him.

Answer
Dear Raquel,

I don't know how long ago this happened but maybe after some time has passed you could make an attempt to reach out to him and try to just find out what happened.  People don't usually just disappear without a reason (someone else, a fight, fear, etc), so I know that it is probably really hard for you to get through this when you don't have closure.  He may not be willing to give you that closure ever, so you have to try and just move on for now.  I would definitely give it some time and see if he approaches you first.  Typically, men respond to no contact... Let's see what happens here.