Expert: ***ERICA*** - 1/31/2008

Question
I have child with this giril shes 20 and i am 18. We recently broke up up because we cannot communicate in a civil way. She is now stayong with her mother and everytime I go look for her she aight there. She leaves our 4 months old baby with her mother. I really dont know if i should just let go or pursue trying to get back with her. We have broke up 5 times in the past but we constantly try to make it work. I just got put on probation for 2 yrs. And i have a job and trying to finish up highschool. And this is taking my stress level to the top and beyond. I really dont know if she has moved on because she denies everytime that shes going with anybody. I really love her, but i dont know if she feels the same way for me. She says she doesn't know if she want to be with me. So she got me all twisted. what should i do.

Answer
Hi Joshua... Concentrate on yourself and getting your life put back together..... Get yourself in order for your child to have the best Dad any child could ask for.... The best revenge is success and by making yourself very successful you will fill so much better about yourself and everyone else around you will notice.  I would make sure that you take care of your baby and not concern yourself with what she is doing (easier said than done) but, it is easier than driving yourself crazy over the situation.  Your email shows that you are heading on the right path..... you don't need the extra stress in your life.... spend some time with just you and even more time with you and your baby.... Good Luck and I hope this helps...