Expert: ***ERICA*** - 10/20/2008

Question
I have been with my boyfriend since I was a sophmore in high school. Now Im 18 and hes 19. I recently found out  that he has been a cocaine user since he was 14 but I had not been able to tell. Hes always treated me really good and hes has a job. He does not know that I found out and im wondering if I should leave him but I still love him

Answer
Dear Daisy,
You may want to confront him and tell him that you are concerned and see what his reaction is.  Being with a cocaine user is definitely not an ideal situation for anyone.  Things will progressively get worse for him and if you are with him they will get worse for you as well.  I would try to talk to him and see how he reacts and what his course of action is going to be.  This is a very dangerous situation (emotionally and financially.)  One who has been addicted for that period of time cannot get off the drug themselves.  They must seek professional help and whether or not he wants to go to rehab is up to him, but he has to want it... he can't do it for anyone else.  Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica