Expert: ***ERICA*** - 10/17/2008

Question
My girlfriend and I were dating for six months and everything seemed fine until one day I got jealous because she was obsessing over one of her guy friends. Then we both argued for a bit and she said later she thinks she needs more time. This is a major heartbreak because she is my first real girlfriend and I put my heart into it. But I sucked it up and said I was willing to give her all the space she needed in the hopes that she'll clear her head and come back. Right now we're on a "break" so we can se other people with the only stipulation being that if we get intimate with someone else we can only go as far as kissing. Will we be able to pull it back together or should my worst fears be confirmed because its over soon?

Answer
Dear M,
All you can do is give her the space that she needs and wants and try to get a head start on moving on with your life.  That way no matter what happens you are going to be ok.  If you decide to get back together great, but if you don't and during this time you are focusing in on your own life you are going to be ok as well.  It is when we hold onto hope and don't focus in on ourselves it becomes unbearable.  So, take care of you .... give her all of the space in the world and maybe by taking care of you .... you will see the relationship in a different light as well.  Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica