Expert: Dana Q - 10/26/2008

Question
Hi Dana.  I am writing you because my boyfriend of a year and a half betrayed me with anyother woman.  He is 23 and from Jamaica, and I am 28 and have lived in the Midwest for most of my life.  We met in a college class were we go to school.  He tried to go out with me my sophomore year, but I was taken.  We had gotten together one time, but we both thought that is was not right because I was with someone.  When my relationship failed, that was when we decided to start seeing eachother.  This was the summer of my Junior year.  Everything was great.  I moved in with him, drove him around because he did not drive, took him to work, picked him up from work, and I spent money on him.  I never really thought there was a problem because he did not make much money, and what he did make went for bills.  He did work at a clothing store and bought clothes with his money that he could not afford.  Every night we spent together we enjoyed eachothers company.  One night, he took my car with out me knowing and partied until 7 in the morning.  I moved out but then moved back in.  He also punched me one time when I accusted him of cheating after he had been out all night.  This year at school, we were living together but something was wrong.  He always went over to his friends house to do homework which I thought was strange.  Then, I moved out again because he was not affectionate with me at all, and I still was faithful to him.  We still spent time together until last week when his new girlfriend came other to the apartment and told me they had been together for the last month.  What should I do.  He told me I was his true love.  Was I being used.  Should I move on.  He was my best friend.  Now I have nothing.  But when I am with him he does not give me his attention anymore.  I have to see him and the girl at school every day.  What should I do.

Answer
Hi Jennifer,

Thanks for writing to me.  You are very lucky to be rid of this man.  Any guy who punches you, even once, is not right for you.  He is also a cheater and a user, which are other traits you don't want in a man.  You are far better off without this man in your life; believe me.  Do your best to distance yourself from him, and when you see him at school with the other girl, pity her because she is involved with such a loser.  

Good Luck,

Dana Q