Expert: ***ERICA*** - 10/4/2008

Question
me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years now.we get along good and he never fights with me.i never give him a reason to.but when we do fight it's cause i find out hes going to a friends house and talks to her behind my back for no reason.everyone has friends and i don't care if he does.so when i find out and try to talk to him about it,he will hit me and make me feel like im the bad one. twice a month he will leave in the morning and won't come home untill the next day.that hurts me the most cause i try to figure out what i did wrong for him to do this to me. and if i try and say anything about it, I better get ready to be hit.he knows he does wrong and hurts me for his wrong doings.I want to leave him,but i want him to be the one to leave me.everyday i want to tell him i can't live like this anymore, also i'm to scared of him.and yes i feel like i love him to much and he knows it.

Answer
Sonia,
You don't get along with your boyfriend well if he is hitting you.  He does what he wants to do and you have to watch what you say or you get hit.... you deserve much much much better than this situation.  Please try to find the strength and support to leave this terrible situation before something really bad happens.  You don't need him to be the one to leave.... find the power to leave yourself.  You deserve more than what you are getting.... trust me... noone deserves to be subjected to physical violence.... start depending on people who are good to you and will support you through this difficult time and no matter what.... no matter how much he begs... don't go back... it only gets worse... trust me.  Warmest Wishes, Erica