Expert: Dana Q - 11/18/2008

Question
I take my girlfriend out on a date when I can. I, like alot of people am not rich and she knows that. I am also trying to buy a house.

Yet its never enough what I do for her. I took her out last Friday and we had a great time so she says. But by Monday shes already hinting about me taking her out again this Friday and also meeting her at lunch at her work another day just for the sake of me 'buying' her lunch.

Last night she even said she wanted to email me her new work address so I could 'FTD' her something.

I understand about doing all that. I am not clueless. But, I feel pushed around.

Shes all about me not texting her or calling her during the work day yet she text me today for the sake of just sending me her work address because she couldnt email it, as if it was the most important thing of the day. Not a good morning or anything.

We broke up for a week last week. Frustrations were building and for me this was one of them.

She calls me at her lunch at a restaurant right before she gets her food just to find out if Im going to see this house tonite cause she wants to go too. She cant chat any longer than that though cause her food is there. It seems to be all about her.

This was one of our nights off. She didnt want to see me tonite until finding out I was going to see this house. Then all of the sudden she has free time.  

Im frustrated and getting a bit upset.Am I being used?  

Answer
Hi Mark,

Thanks for writing to me.  Yes, I think you are being used.  It's clear that your girlfriend is more interested in what you can buy her than loving you for you and supporting your goal of buying a house.  I would recommend breaking up permanently.  

Good Luck,

Dana Q