Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/2/2008

Question
I need your help on a couple of things. My girlfiend and I have been together for 2 years. We have gone through 2 break ups and some minor issues. I feel that sometimes that my gf feels that she is always right and anything that I say is wrong. Its been hard for us to break up since we are so close. Her family is going through a rough time finically, and I have helped her in many ways. Today, she told me that she stoled a low value item from a store and then stoled from another store with low value item. In my moral sense, I fell what she is doing is wrong and unethical thing to do. I really don't want to be with someone that does that. She told me that she would stop, but for some reason I can't believe her. I really love her and there are sometimes where I love her and some times I rather be with my friends or with someone elso. What should I do, I am really lost.

Answer
Dear James,
I think you desperately need a time out for you.  Yes, you will run the risk of losing her, but I think your sanity needs to be put first.  We have to respect and trust the person that we are with and if she is doing things that are causing you to lose respect for her then you need to tell her.  Desperate people do desperate things, but there is no excuse for stealing, cheating, etc... There are other ways to obtain items that we need.  Maybe you love her, but don't find this to be long term.  These are all things that you need to think about and you really can't think about them until you take a time out for you.  Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica