Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/6/2008

Question
My boyfriend and i had been together for over 2 years,we have had so many ups and downs because he had mixed feelings from a previous relationship whom with he had a child with. We have broken up so many times and gotten back together because he kept going back and forth between us to but he claimed he was confused because he love us both,well i found out i was pregnant May of this year and things seemed like they were going to be ok until he left me in june and messed with his ex,i forgave him, we got back together and then this august he broke up with me but we were talking about getting back together and he told me how much he wanted to be here for me and the baby then all of a sudden he turned so cold on me,and now after all the hurt he put me through he's messing around with a new girl.I'm so hurt and confused i don't know what to do and i'm 7 and a half months pregnant now,i can't stop cryng i love him so much i can't stand it i just want him back but others say let it go i don't know what to do.He still tells me how much he loves and misses me but he still messing with another girl and he keeps saying maybe we can be together in the future but the more he messes with other girls the more our future in non existant.Maybe it's my hormones.I want him back,i'm so hurt.What should i do?

Answer
Hi Tonnisha,
You have to try and put him on the back burner and concentrate on having a wonderful and healthy baby who needs a parent that is in the right frame of mind.  Unhealthy relationships take up alot of time and energy and right now you don't have that to spare.  You have a beautiful baby that is due very soon and you need to be prepared for the baby so, I would concentrate on your life and getting that together..... It is natural to want someone back in our lives that was in our life for a long time even if it isn't the best situation for us.  Right now your main focus has to be you and the baby.  Maybe when the baby enters your world he won't be as important.  Give yourself this time for you... Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica.... PS...Surround yourself with wonderful people...