Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/24/2008

Question
Ok... i am a gay male 21 years old, I have never been in a relationship but recently i seen the same guy for 8 months it was about sex i guess but also comfort an after all the time we spent together i fell for him. I had a stupid game i played where i would not contact him because i wanted him to contact me 1st, i guess i wanted to feel reassured that he felt the same way as i did, as we never discussed how we felt. Than the stupid game went for 3 weeks an i wanted to contact him but i never did, he eventually messaged me and i ignored it because i was angry with him because of how long it took him , but i did call him the following week and he was angry with me and told me that he had moved on, my heart broke and i just started to cry  an didn't stop. I told him how i felt and that i loved him, he said he cares alot about me an he ain't going anywhere. I cant not except the fact that he is with someone else and so soon. We met just last week and talked for hours which  ended with me in tears right in front of him and i tried to convince him to give me that chance to be the one thing that was missing from his life but he said he likes this new guy alot an he will continue seeing him. He said i didn't take him seriously an i need more experience. I don't want to move on an i ain't going to let go even though my friends say i should. I guess what i want to know is do you think i have a chance of  ever being with him again.

Answer
Dear David,
I wish I had a crystal ball that actually worked and could tell you what is going to happen in the future.  Then, none of us would ever hold on to hope or questions.  Unfortunately, his agenda and desires now are with someone else, but I highly doubt it had anything to do with you.  You don't just "lose" feelings for someone... he has a phone or 2 legs to walk and let you know how he was feeling and if he wanted to be with you he would have taken a more active approach... not just thrown the relationship away.  Please don't beat yourself up over that.  I think there is a lot more to it then you know.  I would start to move on... not contact him.. not beat yourself up, but rather take care of you..... Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica