Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/2/2008

Question
Well, usually im going out with this guy named Jose and he like sooo fucking love me like A LOT. He is so nice with me and everything. I usually do feel something for him but its not like love love. He thinks i love him because im a really lovable person that doesn't like when someone betrays you or say he loves you without demonstrating it. Also like a week ago i broke up with the guy i truly but truly love like BIGG time. So on, evertime Jose comes and jugs me and tries to kiss me i kind of like feel something and i don't know what that really is. He is like trying to act like a real boyfriend and i know that but i just can't act sometimes the same. I feel like weird, and i want to know why. Do you know why i feel like this? i really really want to stop that and get like in love with him but i don't know how.

Answer
Hi Angela,
If you don't feel it for him in that way then I would stop allowing him to hug and kiss you in that manner.  I would also talk to him and tell him that you like him as a person but not like a boyfriend.  Any type of attention feels good so you may feel good when he does these things because who doesn't like the attention.  But, save him from getting hurt and tell him the truth... you may end up with a great friend.  Warmest Wishes, Erica