Expert: ***ERICA*** - 2/10/2008

Question
iv BEEN DATING THIS GIRL FOR ABOUT AN YEAR.AND SHE BROKE UP WITH ME BECAUSE I SAID ALLOT OF STUPID THING TO HER LIKE ABOUT HER PASSED AND WHAT SHE DID. I REALLY DO LOVE HER AND DO WANNA BE WITH HER BUT SHE CANT FOR GIVE ME ON THE THINGS THAT I SAID TO HER. IV BEEN TRYING TO GET BACK WITH HER BUT SHE TELLS ME THAT SHE CANT FORGIVE ME.I ASK HER IF SHE WANTS ME TO LEAVE HER ALONE AND SHE DOESN'T ANSWER ME.SO I DIDN'T CALL HER FOR LIKE 2 WEEKS AND SHE WAS UPSET THAT I DIDN'T. BUT SHE DOESN'T WANT ME BACK I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO PLEASE HELP ME

Answer
Dear Michael,
My suggestion would be to sincerely apologize for whatever remarks you stated and let it go.  You can't take back what you said, but you can rest assured knowing that you heartfully apologized to her and learn from your mistakes.  You cannot force someone to be with you - she needs to decide that on her own.  A breakup is very difficult so try to keep yourself busy and surround yourself with family and friends.  Give her some time to cool off, but make sure that you tell her exactly how you feel..... and how sorry you are because then you know that you did the best you could given the circumstances.... I hope this helps and Good Luck