Expert: ***ERICA*** - 2/15/2008

Question
I am a 21 year old college student and i am in a relationship where i care about her allot but we are to completely different people. So first off i grew up without a father so i am what you would call a soft "no backbone" kinda guy. I have fallen for her so hard in the beginning and gave her everything she ever wanted. I did everything for her thinking she would say thank you or eventually see that this was a faze but we have been together for 8 months and we have spent 5 days apart since then and i feel like i have to be there to do everything for her. When i do say no she gets mad and acts like i do nothing for her. So lately iv been feeling like this relationship has not been getting any better. Meaning i am  not doing good in school and i am BROKE and i have no time to myself. My entire family now just told me that they think shes controlling me and i need to get out ASAP. even my closest friends are like she doesn't respect you. As a topper she owes me $150. I dont think ill ever see it again. So i was wondering how do i go about ending this so called relationship?

Answer
Hi Michael,
I apologize for the delayed response... my computer systems were down and I couldn't access my sites.  So, I am very sorry that I didn't get back to you earlier.

You end it by making sure that you want to end it.  Then, you must be honest and firm with no "discussing or debating" the situation.  Take the loss on the money and count your blessings.  The fact that you are a great guy means that you deserve a great woman who respects and adores you and one that you feel happy and safe with.
Surround yourself with your family and friends that love you to give you the strength that you need.  I applaud you for wanting something better for yourself and to concentrate on school and to save some money.  This appears to be too much "work" and only one person is working... you.... be honest and firm and don't look back.. Good Luck and I hope this helps.