Expert: ***ERICA*** - 3/21/2008

Question
hi erica,
I am Monicca,21yr old software engineer.I was goin on with a guy of my age(software engineer)for the past 20months.he is short tempered and we often break up for small fights and we patch up within few days.we love each other like crazy.i always try to keep him happy and i often make the first move to say sorry and patchup.he thinks i m stubborn.well i was stubborn but not after a few bitter fights.i have given up my ego.he is so much in my thoughts.everythin around me reminds me of him only.so many dreams shattered all together last week.it was a petty fight and he jus said :nobody can argue with u n u wont receive any msg from me now on".he said somethin that i didnt do.i usually give up but this time he did hurt me with his words.i thought he wil come back to me.but he hasnt contacted me yet.i didnt cry all this one week but i cant stop crying now.he is a very good guy.very caring and i love him a lot.i know he loves me too.but i dnt want to talk to him n beg him to come back.its me who always does it.its not ego.jus want to know how much wil he do for me.but i was wrong.pls help me.i cant live without him.i jus cant cope with this situation.hellp me pls pls erica.

Answer
Hi Monicca,
You need to just give him his space and live your life.  This is a great time for you to take some time for yourself and to also take care of yourself.  A lot of small fights sometimes create a big fight if we don't take care of the issues at hand.  I would definitely not contact him - let him think about what he wants... let him miss you.... you don't need to beg for him to come back - you are too good for that.  Noone needs to beg someone to be with them... when it gets to that point we are showing a lack of self respect and that isn't very attractive.  Allow him some time to do what he needs to do, but in the mean time keep busy making your life... fabulous..... No contact is a great way to see if he misses you.... I know its been a week, but in the grand scheme of things... a week isn't very long especially when he knows that you are really really missing him..... Good luck and I hope this helps... warmest wishes, erica