Expert: ***ERICA*** - 3/30/2008

Question
What is the most effective way to check if you love someone?

1. What is the most effective way to check if you love someone?

2. How effective is the kiss test?

a) Would this test be 100% reliable?
b) Has this test work for you?

I have this girlfriend who loves me, but for some reason when we kiss her i don't feel nothing. She said when we kiss she feels something special.

Answer
Hi Freddy....

This is just my rule of thumb....

1.  If I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without this person, everything that I do is better when I share it with this person, I think about this person first thing when I wake up and he is the last person that I think about when I go to sleep, he makes me want to be the best person that I can be, and we connect emotionally, physically, and mentally.  Also, we allow each other to have our own lives and then come together.

2.  I think that passion is extremely important in a relationship.

3.  Yes, the kiss test is pretty reliable.  It has worked for me.

If you feel nothing then you may be lacking the passion that is important in a relationship.  It depends how important passion is to you.  If you at one point did feel the passion then you may just be too comfortable together and need to spice things up.... depends on how you have felt throughout the relationship.  I hope this helps and Good Luck...... Warmest Wishes, Erica