Expert: ***ERICA*** - 3/12/2008

Question
So my ex of a year and a half broke up with me six months ago the first two months he said he didnt no what was going to happen and i text harassed and acted really crazy he called my friends and told them to get me to stop but i couldnt one day he was like i hate you i have no feelings for you and there is no chance in hell for us i freaked out and sent him prob 100 messages finally i said ok and stopped     said goodbye and then he asked me to come see him i talked him into giving us another chance he said ok but just a chance not together things were ok for a week but i couldnt handle not knowing so i went crazy again one day he said it was over forever and i over dosed on pills and ended up in the hospital we agreed to be friends but thats it and i accepted re: the pill thing we talked everyday and he started telling me he cared enough to give it another try but not yet it was to soon we were having sex and hanging out but not often at all i freaked out again and we went on like that for months then he said he didnt even want to be friends or whatever we were i begged him to be my friend and he said i was acting pathetic i agree he ended up changing his number but a week later called me blocked and we started   e mailing each other i took it to far and sent so many emails he stopped replying to all of them and replies only to say mean things its weird and confusing because he still calls every week or so and says its to say hi or stop emailing me i saw him on valentines day for sex but that was it we havent talked or emailed since what do you think i should do im so in love with him do think we can ever work this out he says theres no chance but he said that before and we kind of had one is this relationship done

Answer
Dear Alex,
Please seek the help of a professional in your area.  You have put your life in danger and from what you state in your email - have become obssessed with this individual.  There is something lacking in your life that is creating you to not face a reality of a situation and hanging on to crumbs not to mention accepting someone treating you this way.  DO NOT CONTINUE TO HAVE CONTACT WITH HIM.  Insanity is described as doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results..... you do not need to beg someone to be in your life... you are too good for that.... a professional will help you start to really feel good about you.  Once you feel good about you - these types of situations will not be attractive in any way.  YES... this relationship is OVER.... you are just something to do when he feels like it.... STAY AWAY from him and start spending some time with people who care about you like your family and friends.  I am very concerned about you and I hope that you will care just a little bit about yourself to get the help that you desperately need.... you are worth it.... Good Luck