Expert: ***ERICA*** - 3/14/2008

Question
i recently got home to south africa after working and travelling in the UK for 2 years after high school. about 7 months into my travels i met someone who lived at my backpackers hostel, and we became friends, and shortly after a couple, and were together for over a year, including a 3 month period when he went on a road trip of south america. after this road trip, he wasn't sure that he would come back to the UK, but wanted us to stay together, so we did, and our relationship was, on the whole, very happy.
2 months ago, my work visa for the UK expired, so i had to return home, and he was leaving a week later to go home to new zealand to start studying. so we didn't break up because one didn't love the other anymore, it was just something that had to happen out of practicality, because we don't know if and when we will ever see eachother again. there were no hard feelings, and it was very hard to part ways. it seems these days, however, that we don't really have much to say to eachother, and i am worried that this is how it is destined to be forever. can we ever be friends again? will there ever be closure?  

Answer
Hi Meg... I think you both acted very maturely by realizing that you were going to be great distances apart.  People come into our lives in one of 3 ways:  a lesson, a reason, or a journey.  I like to treasure the wonderful and beautiful moments that I have with them and sometimes our paths just don't cross again.  Maybe because you guys are so far apart now - you have seperate lives... maybe what you shared while the 2 of you were in the UK is just that: time you shared in the UK... I would ask him for whatever closure it is that you need.  But, honestly - you have to have a seperate life for yourself now and hopefully you can remain friends, but both people have to want to...> Good Luck and I hope this helps