Expert: ***ERICA*** - 3/28/2008

Question
My G/F of 6 months broke up with me and won't tell my why. From what I can gather it's b/c im not financially sound, not b/c of love or trust issues in our relationship. I am a serious slacker and have been slowly (emphasize slowly) getting better (being more productive), but it's not fast enough for her I guess. Is she being shallow or am I just the worthless piece of shit she made me out to be?

Answer
Dear Brad,
You have to figure out why it is that you are a slacker.  I don't think its a matter of being financially sound but rather that you have no motivation right now to do what it is that you need to do.  Are you doing something that you enjoy doing?  Is there a reason why you don't have a desire to be the best that you can be?  Only you can answer these questions.  If you take care of you and start to do the things that you need to do for your own life than maybe this will all work out.  But, even if this doesn't work out and it is truly time for the 2 of you to go seperate ways - you deserve to live a wonderful life and a lot of our self worth lies in what we do on a daily basis.  Therefore, if you aren't feeling good about you I would use this time to figure out what it is that you want to do with your life and go after it.... that is for you and you only.  Good Luck and I hope this helps... Warmest Wishes, Erica