Expert: ***ERICA*** - 4/30/2008

Question
I just broke up with my boyfriend of seven years. We have a four year old together. I have been supporting him for 4 months while he has been out of work.  We got into a very bad argument on Saturday that ended up with both if use have protection orders and me having custody of our son. I have not eaten or sleep in 4 days. He was my best friend, my protection, and the love of my life. He has not moved out all of his stuff yet so I am reminded of him every day that I am home. I am just so lost.  How can I get over this?

Answer
Dear Kristin,
Breakups are not easy and having a child together makes it even more difficult.  What you are feeling is very normal.  The best thing that you can do for yourself right now is to take care of you and the baby.  So, that means that you have to eat and sleep and be in a good state of mind for your child.  You were together for 7 years so everything is going to remind you of him for a long time.  We are creatures of habit and don't necessarily like change.  This is a lot of change.  The only thing that makes you feel remotely better is time.  When they say that time heals all wounds it is very true.  It is going to get a lot worse before it gets better.  But, by taking care of your child and finding yourself through this period you are going to feel a little better everyday.  Don't allow the lonliness to be a reason to jump back into a situation that wasn't good for you.  If the 2 of you are meant to be together - you will be.  Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica...  ps... surround yourself with people who love you and force yourself to do things even when you don't want to.