Expert: ***ERICA*** - 4/14/2008

Question
I'm an 18-year-old girl and a few months ago I started seeing this 21-year-

old guy. At first, things were fine, but then he wanted the relationship to get

more physical. He'd already done everything and I'd done next to nothing, so I

was hesitant. I tried a few minor things with him, but he continued to want to

do more serious things while making out. When it got to a point where I

didn't feel comfortable going farther, he tried to understand. He said he

would like to have sex, but all he was asking for was for me to go just a little

further and then we could stop for a while. I still didn't feel comfortable going

farther, and he got frustrated. He said all this stuff was "basic", not a big deal,

and this would not be a problem for anyone else. I told him I just needed

more time, and he explained that because I'm going to be away for the

summer and after next year he's going to be gone for good, time is limited.

So I decided to end it between us.



I just want to know if I made the right decision. If he really cared for me, he

would've been ok with me not wanting to do more at this point, right? I

realize it's sort of different for a girl my age to not want to do a lot of "basic"

stuff with a guy, but I don't want to rush into a feeling. Other than the way he

felt about this issue, he was great. Was it right to break it off solely because

of this or should I have tried to compromise?

Answer
Hi Sarah,
You absolutely made the right decision.  If he cared he would have waited.... and when you experience those beautiful moments they shouldn't be with a jerk which is what he sounds like.  NEVER compromise yourself.... you did a great thing here... you took care of you..... Keep your head held high and when you meet the right person that you want to share it with it will feel right.... Good Luck... Warmest Wishes, Erica....