Expert: ***ERICA*** - 4/28/2008

Question
Me and my boyfriend have been living together since august of 2003. On december 2006, i cheated on him while he was away on another country( i dont know how it happened).he was gone for 4 months and i met another guy whom i started going out with. then my bf came back and we got back together. i got pregnant by my bf and then he foung out about what had happened when he was gone. Now it's been 16 months since he came back. we have a son (5 mnths old) but he still hasnt told his family about us. his brother came over and my bf told us to go to my parents house. now his brother is gone and he called me back. i dont know if i should go back or not?? please help.. i love him a lot..

Answer
Dear Reshma,
What??? Well, first of all we always know how cheating happens - because we want to.  You have a baby with someone who's entire family doesn't know that you or your baby exist?  How is this even possible?  Do you want to continue to live your life as the "mystery?"  I really don't have a lot of information to go with but you have been with him since 2003 - haven't met his family - have to move out when his family visits - and don't know if you should go back to that?  It depends on whether or not you want to continue living your life exactly the way that you were prior to moving out of the place because nothing has changed ..... and how important is it to you for things to be different??  Warmest Wishes, Erica