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My fiance recently left and wants to maintain a relationship with my two children, age 13 and 7. It was a 2 1/2 yr relationship and my 7 yr old son thinks of my ex has his father as he has never met his bio dad and knows nothing about him. My son wants to see him too as they were quite bonded. I am struggling with what to do.
Hi Ali,
How about a 3rd party to allow the visitation to occur? It's very difficult for children when the people that they look to - break up (just as if it were a divorce). But, it is very important for your son to know that this is over and that the 2 of them can remain friends, but the relationship is going to change (if this is really over) if there are doubts - I would postpone that conversation. But, I don't see anything wrong with a little contact between the 2 especially since that will make your son not feel as though he was "left." Good luck through this difficult time. Warmest Wishes, Erica
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***ERICA***
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A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee ~ it hurts. It requires a lot of personal reflection and change. It's never easy. I will tell you that I am extremely blunt and honest in my answers. I WILL NOT answer any questions asked by anyone under the age of 18. If you are looking for someone to sugarcoat the truth ~ please ask someone else. Also, I am only giving you my expert advice ~ I am not a fortune teller ~ I cannot predict the future and my main focal point is to help you get through a very difficult time because I have been there. XOXO
Experience
BBA
Expert in the How to Attract that Man of Your Dreams
Engaged numerous times ~ grew from a self destructive person to a healthy woman.
Hope to have helped many people go through this extremely difficult time.
Firm believer in the book/movie: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ~ it is that simple
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BBA
MBA
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