Expert: ***ERICA*** - 6/15/2008

Question
Me and my boyfriend are nearly 2 years together, we have our ups and downs but lately its getting worse and worse. His dad is a problem from where i see it. My parents broke up when i was 5 and i have seen my dad ever since then and my mum chooses to ignore me. so I am basically on my own. My boyfriend's dad gets on my case all the time or just putting me down but my boyfriend doesn't see it that way, stands up for him. on several occasions hes dad has called me an orphan and other hurtful things. My boyfriend obviously stands up for his dad and tells me to get over it. My life at the moment isn't that easy at all, i am 19 years old, my mum doesn't want and now my boyfriend doesn't care, i have no friends, Please tell me what i can do

Answer
Hi Karina,
It sounds like you need to create a life for yourself where you aren't depending on anyone.  Set up a plan and get busy making those plans happen.  You don't need to be held hostage by anyone or anything and trust me you start to feel a lot better when you accomplish goals that you set for yourself.  In the meantime try to ignore what your boyfriend's father is saying to you (easier said than done), but knowing you have a plan will help and don't tell your boyfriend about it because he has obviously shown you what his reaction will be.... Therefore, set up a plan and go with it girl.... Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica