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Expert: ***ERICA*** - 6/25/2008


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I am a 44yo man, divorced 2 years ago. I have met a lady that I've grown very close to, and she to me. My ex-wife continues the manipulative behavior towards me even after the divorce. I have no interest in my ex at all, and want to get on with my life, and after being in the abuse, it's a real struggle to get normal again. My lady friend says she can't handle the way my ex-wife treats me, and that I let it affect me still, so she ended it last night. My ex-wife knows my weaknesses, and exploits them. One of the big weaknesses is my 3 children who live with her, and I have time with twice a week. What do I need to do to end the manipulation from my ex, and prove myself to my special friend, my kids, and myself?

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Bill,
If you really want to be with your special friend and this is how she is feeling then you need to make things right.  Protect yourself when it comes to your children by having a court order that allows you the visitation rights that you deserve.... Then, you ignore any and all contact with the ex unless it has to do with the children... even better.... allow the special friend to interact with her.. that should do the trick... But, if this special friend is important to you ... don't let her get away.... Good Luck... Warmest Wishes, Erica

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A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee ~ it hurts. It requires a lot of personal reflection and change. It's never easy. I will tell you that I am extremely blunt and honest in my answers. I WILL NOT answer any questions asked by anyone under the age of 18. If you are looking for someone to sugarcoat the truth ~ please ask someone else. Also, I am only giving you my expert advice ~ I am not a fortune teller ~ I cannot predict the future and my main focal point is to help you get through a very difficult time because I have been there. XOXO

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BBA Expert in the How to Attract that Man of Your Dreams Engaged numerous times ~ grew from a self destructive person to a healthy woman. Hope to have helped many people go through this extremely difficult time. Firm believer in the book/movie: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ~ it is that simple

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