Expert: ***ERICA*** - 6/25/2008

Question
My boyfriend Matt and I just broke up after a year and a half, actually I broke up with him. I had mentioned to him 2 weeks ago that since I took his virginity and he did not take mine that he should try and get it out of his system, saying this only as a test and he responded perfectly. Now 2 weeks later he said "ive been thinking about what you said and im kinda thinking it would be a good idea" so i was trying to be mature and let him speak. We had an hour conversation and i told him that i had the opportunity to cheat but physically could not because i loved him so much and he took that as "maybe i should find someone try it out to see if i can cheat or not" so i told him to give me a call when he gets his head on straight because im breaking up with him and he said OK. This was not at all like him. He always tells me how much he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Out of everything in the entire world I would have never thought anything he just said to me would have ever come out of his mouth. Do you think someone is pushing another woman on him because hes hanging out with new guy friends. He still told me after this happened that he loves me and never wants to leave me. Why all of a sudden is this happening???

Answer
Victoria,
Because you played a game... Games are only good for having entertainment value..... Haven't you ever heard that you should never say anything that you don't mean or do anything that you don't mean because it could come back and bite you in the ass.... The best thing you can do is tell him that you really didn't mean what you said and that you want to be with him and then stop throwing all of these "tests" at him because noone can pass all of these "tests."  AND its not fair to have someone have to "prove" their love or fidelity.  Good Luck. Erica