Expert: ***ERICA*** - 6/24/2008

Question
My boyfriend dumped me over msn. No explanation after 2 yrs. Now I'm trying desperately to call him because I feel like I never got a chance to speak. He just won't pick up his phone. Is it wise for me to keep trying, for my own mental state?  I miss him so much and now I don't feel interested in other men, just him. My friends tell me to move on, but how can I if I feel this way?     He said I called 3x a week and talked too much on msn. He said it smothered him. Am I at fault here or is he looking for excuses? He says his other friends don't talk to him as much and that's how he likes it. He also has depression. I would try to comfort him but he said he hates being treated differently when he's depressed. What do I do now? I feel like shit.

Answer
Hi Emme,
When someone is interested in you they typically don't feel smothered and if they do they tell you about it - not just break up with you.  You have to move on with your life - you have to take care of you because it sounds like he has made a decision and by not taking your calls it really isn't up for discussion.  I know that you really want answers, but the truth is even if you talked to him you probably wouldn't get the answers that you are looking for.  You aren't at fault... he isn't at fault - sometimes things change and people change and even though he broke up with you in a cowardly fashion there isn't anything you can do about it.... except move on.. Good Luck.. Warmest WIshes, Erica