Expert: ***ERICA*** - 7/16/2008

Question
hi erica..i recently broke up with a girl whom i love very much..last night she got a dream tat we broke up and she together again with her ex..then today she say tat she still keep feelings for her ex..she have been thinking and missing him without my notice..until now she told me..she say she don't want to hurt me anymore..she suggest that we should cool down and think what's best for us..i expected she will ask for a break up soon..advice me please..i really don't know what to do now..i love her so much and she a very nice girl..a rare indeed to be exact..should i convince her to my side or we should separate for the best of us?

Answer
Hi Espada,
I would give her the space that she needs to sort out these feelings.  If things are meant to be - they will be.  However, she needs to figure out exactly what she wants.  In the meantime I would live your own life and surround yourself with great people and things that you enjoy doing.  Anything you chase in life typically runs away.  So, I wouldn't try to convince her, but rather wish her the best and hope for the best.  You deserve to be cared about and number one when your in a relationship.  Warmest Wishes, Erica