How to Breakup/Deal With Break Ups/Moving on after break ups

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Expert: ***ERICA*** - 9/20/2008


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Hi,

I broke up with my ex gf 9 months ago and now I heard that she is coming to my friend's 23rd bday in 2 weeks. I was just wondering since I moved on 2 months ago and I dont really think about her, what should I do to show her that I moved on totally?? Should I ignore her or talk to her?? We really had a bad bad break up and we didn't get to talk about it in person. Any suggestions??

THanks in advance

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Dear Curtis,
You could just be cordial and polite.  Say "Hello", but avoid any long and lengthy conversation between the 2 of you.  Since you are celebrating a mutual friend's birthday - the purpose of the 2 of you being there is to do just that - celebrate your friends birthday.  If she trys to engage in any sort of communication - be nice, but firm.... If in the future you feel the need to talk about your breakup - you could do so, but I don't think this is the ideal setting to do so.  Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica

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A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee ~ it hurts. It requires a lot of personal reflection and change. It's never easy. I will tell you that I am extremely blunt and honest in my answers. I WILL NOT answer any questions asked by anyone under the age of 18. If you are looking for someone to sugarcoat the truth ~ please ask someone else. Also, I am only giving you my expert advice ~ I am not a fortune teller ~ I cannot predict the future and my main focal point is to help you get through a very difficult time because I have been there. XOXO

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BBA Expert in the How to Attract that Man of Your Dreams Engaged numerous times ~ grew from a self destructive person to a healthy woman. Hope to have helped many people go through this extremely difficult time. Firm believer in the book/movie: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ~ it is that simple

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