Expert: ***ERICA*** - 9/15/2008

Question
I have been dating this women for over a year now and things have been up and down the whole time. First of all i am an alcoholic and she suffers from depression. so two months ago we split up for good. I realized that my alcohol  was not doing me any good so  i  decided to get treatment and counseling. She had been getting counseling at the same time and i was unaware of this. So two weeks ago we decided to spend some time together and for the first time of my life it was true quality time. we laughed cried and held each other all day. We kissed so much that i made her chin red.The problem that i have is her parents despise me. even though through out the year we both put each other down it seems   that i am at fault. i AM TRYING TO MAKE THIS WORK but it seems to me she is not a interested any more. It is like are relationship did 180. When we first met all i wanted was sex and i did what ever i wanted. now its the same with her except with out the sex. She still suffers from depression but she is getting better, and i still fight the urge to drink every day but I would rather be with her then drink. what is going on with this relationship? is it a loss cause or can it be fixed. Please help by your knowledge

Answer
Dear Aaron,
I got your question out of the question pool which is why noone has responded sooner.  You really need to concentrate on you right now and allow her to concentrate on herself.  If you went to treatment they should have told you that you should stay out of relationships for a year.  The reason they say this is because by not focusing on yourself you may relapse when you are feeling down.  This is a very important time for you.  Therefore, I would concentrate on you let her concentrate on herself and if the 2 of you are meant to be you will be no matter what.  Good Luck and Warmest Wishes, Erica