Expert: ***ERICA*** - 10/28/2009

Question
My best friend (let's call her J) was going out with a guy (Let's call him N). After over six months she found out that he was very interested in her anymore and liked one of our friends (Call her B) instead. This made J really angry, but she stayed with N. Soon after J found out about that N broke up with her. Now B and N are going out and she has another guy (called R). Even though she loves the R and she really loves N, She keeps getting realy angry at B for going out with N even though she said she had her permission. She even set N and B up together.

She even got B's ex's ex girlfriend to have a go at B because she keeps going out with people's exs, this is simply a coincidence.

What can I say to J to stop her getting annoyed with something that she was orginally O.K. with?

Answer
Dear Shannon,
I'm sorry, but I feel like I am taking my law school admission test again with this email with all of these letters being used.  What I can tell you is that maybe you shouldn't concern yourself with anyones business - explain to them that you don't want to be in the middle of the situation that you are friendly with everyone (unless of course you are one of the letters) if this is the case I would be happy to give you some advice, but I can't break this down the way that it is written.  If you aren't one of the letters then this shouldn't affect your life and let all of the drama play out on its own... Good Luck