About***ERICA*** Expertise A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee ~ it hurts. It requires a lot of personal reflection and change. It's never easy. I will tell you that I am extremely blunt and honest in my answers. I WILL NOT answer any questions asked by anyone under the age of 18. If you are looking for someone to sugarcoat the truth ~ please ask someone else. Also, I am only giving you my expert advice ~ I am not a fortune teller ~ I cannot predict the future and my main focal point is to help you get through a very difficult time because I have been there. XOXO
Experience BBA
Expert in the How to Attract that Man of Your Dreams
Engaged numerous times ~ grew from a self destructive person to a healthy woman.
Hope to have helped many people go through this extremely difficult time.
Firm believer in the book/movie: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ~ it is that simple
Question I was with my boyfriend for about 6 months, and we lived together for the whole 6 months. When we first started, he had no job, no car, no phone, and no place to live, I mean he wasn’t homeless, but he was just staying on the couch of his aunts house. During our first month or so, I managed to scramble up the money to buy him and connect a brand new phone, under my name, and I was able to find him a job through a friend of mine, he would take my car as it was at his disposal…and all was great. He helped with my son, which was great seeing as how he was the first man to EVER met my son since I left his father, he helped around the house, he would give me all the money from his checks to help with the bills…we laughed, talked, had AMAZING sex, and everything was great…then…somewhere down the line, things went bad. We started arguing, we wouldn’t talk anymore, there was always an awkward silence or a forced conversation going on…we both knew something was wrong but didn’t want to deal with it. The ONLY thing that never went bad was the sex…about a week ago, we decided to sit down and talk about things…long story short, he felt it was too much responsibility and he wasn’t ready for it just yet, and maybe he would be if the arguing would stop…he felt he still had things undone in his own life that he wanted to see through…but at the sometime he still wants to see me, just not live with me. Now, I am conflicted…because I love him, as does my son, but I don’t know if I can do a half way relationship after everything we have been through, I don’t know how to put the fact that I am inlove with him aside so that he can go find himself and he can still have me on the side when he’s not busy doing something else…a part of me feels as if he wants to have his cake and eat it to…but another side feels like he is just being truthful, he is young and has never lived on his own before, so I understand how it can be stressful to someone, sometimes I want to run away from my own life, but I don’t! I stick it through, good or bad…I broke down the other night and went to see him, we talked and kissed and he said that he wants to date me, he wants to miss me again, he wants to want me again and in order to do that we have to go back to basics…but all the while, I will be at OUR apartment that I got because of us being together, and he will be out living the life and calling me as a last resort…or at least that is how I feel..I just don’t know what to think anymore, I don’t know if he really does care about me or if just wants to have some fun with a piece of ass on the side…I am to blinded by my emotions to be rational…what do you think?
Answer Dear Veronica,
Please don't let him have his cake and eat it too.... I wish us women would stop "fixing" these guys... These MEN need to be MEN.... AHHHHH... Anyway... make sure the phone is out of your name.. make sure he has no financial obligation(s) to you, and have no contact with him. If he misses you ~ he will do nothing short of moving mountains to be with you.... Other than that ~ set him free.... Don't lower yourself for good sex or crumbs.... You are too FABULOUS a woman for that.... It's going to be hard... breakups are extremely painful, but right now... you don't have a choice, but to let him go.... How hard you make it IS YOUR CHOICE.... Good Luck
