Expert: ***ERICA*** - 10/20/2009

Question
My boyfriend and I broke up right after Christmas and have been broken up since..so about 10 months. We kept sleeping with one another on and off during this time. Lately though, we have been talking about reconciling. Thing is during this time, I have also had some flings (I used protection and got checked out) and I heard but haven't confirmed that he has dated others as well.
He denies it but has asked me if I have been with anyone else. Should I tell him? I am worried it'll ruin things, and should I bother to get the truth out of him as well? Thank you..

Answer
Dear Sylvia,
If you continue to sleep with him on and off ~ I highly doubt that you will get back together and have a lasting relationship because the 2 of you are having your cake and eating it too.  I would definitely not tell him nor should you know what went on during your breakup because it really is none of your business or his.  However, for safety reasons I would just tell him that if he has been with anyone else you would appreciate him getting checked because you respect your body and want to make sure that it is safe to have unprotected sex with him.  By telling each other you are going to have serious issues on top of the ones that the two of you already have.  I see no good coming out of having that type of honest conversation.  Good Luck