About***ERICA*** Expertise A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee ~ it hurts. It requires a lot of personal reflection and change. It's never easy. I will tell you that I am extremely blunt and honest in my answers. I WILL NOT answer any questions asked by anyone under the age of 18. If you are looking for someone to sugarcoat the truth ~ please ask someone else. Also, I am only giving you my expert advice ~ I am not a fortune teller ~ I cannot predict the future and my main focal point is to help you get through a very difficult time because I have been there. XOXO
Experience BBA
Expert in the How to Attract that Man of Your Dreams
Engaged numerous times ~ grew from a self destructive person to a healthy woman.
Hope to have helped many people go through this extremely difficult time.
Firm believer in the book/movie: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ~ it is that simple
Question i broke up w/my bf in about 6 or 7 months ago, knowing that it wouldnt be fair for him me being in the other side of the counrty per say long distance relationship, i actually told him that ill be back after a year or two & it didnt happen now its been 10yrs since i havent been back home & this year im going back home to see my family & him as well i called him this morning telling him that i want him back & he said he doesnt want to answer it, & then again he said that he already have a GF i dont know if he just actually making those things up, since ive been talking to his relatives & they said that he doesnt even have a gf.
i did actually make so much effort to keep our communication just to let him know that even though im a thousand miles away i still want to be w/him its just in a matter of time, one of the reason too that i broke up w/him is most of my friends back home told me that he is actually seeing someone while we were still on i do actually call him almost every single day giving him the options if he wants to be w/someone else just to let me know but he actually hid it from me not till all the rumors spread...
it just made me realized after i broke up w/him that i really want to be w/this person but the thing is when i talk to him he doesnt sounds like his still interested in me, & for a fact that he always tell me that his bc,,, i know i made a mistake bout that promise to go back home but do i really deserve to be treated like this should i call him again & asked him one more time about it or no? i would really apprreciate it if u can give me some advised on what to do should i go for it or just leave him alone & moved on w/my life
Answer Dear E,
Since you already expressed how you feel ~ let the ball be in his court. If he wants to be with you he will definitely let you know. Stop hurting yourself by continuing to call him, ask about him, etc. This doesn't help the situation any. The truth is ~ long distance relationships are very hard and rarely do they make it. But, before you even consider that fact you don't know if he even wants to be with you especially if he is telling you that he has another girlfriend. Don't beat yourself up because your lives went in two seperate directions. You have expressed your feelings ~ he has expressed his..... You are trying to make excuses and not feel the rejection, but his responses and actions don't sound like someone who wants to be with you. Therefore, I would go home on your visit ~ spend it with your family and friends, but not him because you are just continuing to hurt yourself.... you need to start living your life and it very well may be without him..... If he wants you ~ you will know..... Good Luck
