Expert: Julie - 10/2/2009

Question
im 18 years old, and i was dating this guy, we met when i was 16 and he was 19 i was his first girlfriend first everything and he was mine aswell, our relationship lasted about a year and it was very serious and intense one it was as if it was a full on romance, he dumped me out of the blue, and it shattered me i felt as if i was an empty corpse there was no one in my body to tell me to snap out of it, it had been 2 year since then i have a new partner that i have been with for about a year but i still cry myself to sleep at night and i still feel as if i am empty and alone i tired talking to my ex but he said it was just to hard and he doesn't want to talk anymore he has a new girlfriend now and whenever i see him somewhere or think of something from when we were together i feel as if there is a massive hole in my chest like i cant breathe and I'm falling apart, I've tried so many things and i cant make this go away i feel as if I'm going to be like this forever..... what can i do ??

Answer
This is a hard situation to be in..theres not much you can do except focus on yourself and really start to let go of him. Focus on this new relationship you are in and try to stop dwelling on your ex. It really is hard and it does take some people longer to get over someone than it does others but everytime you find yourself thinking of him stop immediately and start thinking of something else instead. The more you allow yourself to think of him the harder it will be get over him.

good luck

Julie